My Life-Changing Moment

love conquers hate

I had a life-changing experience that led me to start this website. I tried to deny and even run from what happened but finally after three years of resisting I created this site.

Here’s what happened:

Evidently I didn’t move fast enough when the light turned green. I was sitting in my car and -I admit- was checking my email on my phone so I missed the moment when the light changed. The person in the car behind me started honking. A lot of strong emotion came through in the way he blew his horn. It was clear to me that the driver was in a very bad mood. He was angry.

The first thing I felt was gratitude. I immediately realized this guy was angry before the light turned green. So I was grateful to know that I was not the cause of his anger. But he was certainly using this incident to vent. He was looking for a target for all the anger, anger that pre-dated my slow response to the green light.

As I moved forward he continued to lean on the horn. I looked in the rearview mirror and could see his face contorted in anger as he yelled at me. I couldn’t hear him but the fury was all over his face. We were in the left turn lane and as I made the turn he tailgated me in anticipation of moving around me. As he approached alongside of me, I was suddenly awash in love.

I could feel my whole body flooded in love, with love. It was like it was coming from the sky and filling me with love. I then went from feeling love to being love.

The driver was now on my right and I turned to him and made eye contact. He’d rolled the window down and was shouting something at me his face filled with rage. With love on my face, I called to him, “I love you! I love you! I love you!”

The effect was astounding.

He stopped yelling.

He kept eye contact.

His face softened and he smiled and gave a little wave.

And that was the moment I realized that love conquers hate. Until then I believed that anger and negativity were so toxic that they sucked all the love out of a room. I’d certainly experienced situations where a Downer Doug or a Negative Nancy affected scores of people with their negative energy.

But this road rage incident showed me that love is stronger than all else. Tweet: Love is stronger than all else. @lizvioletnewell

I also realized it is my true calling to become a Messenger of Love.

Since then I’ve been consciously choosing to respond with love when confronted with angry or negative people. It’s hard to do but oh-so-rewarding to watch the transformation.

Where in your life can you use love to turn a situation around? Please comment below and share this article with people who may find it helpful, interesting or inspiring. Thank you.

About Liz Violet Newell 31 Articles
Liz Violet Newell has been inspiring, encouraging, advising, and supporting others through various business and volunteer positions since 1999. Her life story of continuous self-improvement serves as the foundation for her writing, and the motivation behind her desire to make a difference through love and kindness. Liz has overcome extreme shyness, childhood bullying, won a lifelong battle with overeating, and survived divorce. She is active in a vibrant and supportive community of empowered women, spiritual practitioners and avid writers.


  1. We’ve all been there in those kinds of situations so it’s good to be reminded. We were hit not once but twice 10 years apart by a red light runner. One is permanently brain damaged yet functioning okay. I just would have liked an apology. Yet this area is litigious so we aren’t’ supposed to reach out to each other. I did though reach out to the red light runner who was so damaged. Nothing in return though. It was enough for me to show my care and concern. PTSD is real. I’d already suffered and this incident added insult to injury as the saying goes. At times I had to ride on the floor of the back seat when David drove because I was so paranoid as he had been driving my car both times and both cars were totaled. Karma? Whatever? Thanks, Liz.

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