It’s hard for me to admit when I am wrong, even if only to myself. I experienced a clear example of this recently when I visited Dunnellon in central Florida for the first time.
I was to meet a friend for lunch in this quaint little town. However, when I arrived at the restaurant she texted she was running about 30 minutes late. So I decided to get a Klondike bar from a convenience store. Rather than turn around to go back to the quick-stop I’d just passed, I chose to explore a little by continuing further along the road.
After zipping along a few miles without spotting a place, I wondered if it might be better to turn around. But as I passed churches, a retirement home, a high school, and a fruit stand, I just could not bring myself to make a u-turn.
I was invested.
I continued to forge ahead. One more curve, one more hill, surely there will be a convenience store soon. I’ve come this far. There’s got to be one any minute.
I ended up driving 10 miles to find a place even though I knew there was one less than a ½ mile from the restaurant.
I literally could not change direction because I was attached to being right.
Why did I need to keep going and going? Why was it so difficult for me to admit to myself that I was wrong? What was so hard about deciding to cut my losses and change course?
If I am to become a Messenger of Love (BAMOL), I need to learn to be more flexible.
BAMOL involves learning to be compassionate and forgiving of myself so that I can show love and kindness out in the world. If I am rigidly sticking to a (failing) plan then I run the risk of being inflexible and agenda-driven with others.
My work is to learn how to go with the flow and allow myself to be wrong. I want to be more open to changing course along the way. By letting go of perfection and allowing myself to be fallible, I allow others to do so, too.
How hard is it for you to admit when you are wrong? Can you easily change course and adopt a new agenda? We can inspire each other when we share stories in the comments below or in the private Facebook group.
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